I’ve learned this the hard way, and I’m going to share my story with you below, hoping it will inspire you and help you make the right decision for you and your baby.
Three years ago, I got pregnant despite the fact that we were using protection. Unaware of the pregnancy, I underwent X-rays, physical therapy, and took strong medication to treat severe back problems. Imagine my surprise when we learned we were one of the 1-2% for which contraception is ineffective and my desperation when I realized the risks.
To top it all up, I was at my second pregnancy, with Rh negative blood type. We were in debt way over our head, and we already had a hard time caring for one daughter. The thought of caring for two was driving us crazy, and everyone around us insisted on an abortion. According to them, our baby was doomed, and about to ruin our lives and that of our daughter.
We decided to consult a doctor and have an ultrasound first, just to have a full picture of what was going on and make an informed decision. I was in my eighth week of pregnancy. When I heard her heartbeats, my own heart stopped. My husband had tears in his eyes.
The doctor confirmed she had been conceived before treatment, and I couldn’t stop crying, convinced that an induced alternative was the only solution.
But I was lucky. My doc explained that the risks for birth defects were lower since the X-rays and the treatment had taken place in the first weeks of pregnancy. She encouraged me to wait for one more month and have another ultrasound. She promised to make the appointment for the abortion with another doctor should she notice anything wrong with the baby.
We didn’t go for the second ultrasound, because we decided we couldn’t silence that strong heartbeat. Due to difficult work conditions, I came close to a miscarriage and had to quit my job. My elder developed pneumonia and I spent almost one month with her, hospitalized. I worked for nights on a row to help put food on the table and save for the inevitable C-section.
It was all worth it. I gave birth to a gorgeous, healthy, and happy blue-eyed little girl that has brought immense joy to our home and our hearts. We’ve solved all our problems in the meantime, and our relationship is stronger than ever. Just to make sure I wouldn’t be faced with the perspective of abortion again, aware of all risks, I opted for tube ligation.
I realize your situation is different but the hardships you’re facing will not last forever. Moreover, they don’t give you the right to end a life. Besides being risky and depriving you of the protective effects of pregnancy and of the joy of motherhood.
Abortion Is Murder! Instead of considering it, look for alternatives, reach out and express your fears, ask for advice. You’re not alone but you are responsible for the life growing inside you, and ending it is not the way to go!
Mihaela is a proud mother of two, happily married to the love of her life and passionate about reading, music, healthy cooking, and child psychology. A sociologist and expert copywriter, she now channels her knowledge and experience in writing for Iris Content, AM Navigator, Top 10 Picks, and, last but not least, her soul-project, BebeYoga.