You’ve found out you’re pregnant – yay, congratulations on your big news. It’s pretty tough to keep this exciting secret all to yourself when you probably want to share with anyone who’d care to listen.
So, when and how is the right way to announce your big news with loved ones? To be quite honest, there’s no right or wrong time to announce the news of your pregnancy.
This decision is entirely up to you and your partner. When and how you choose to share, is completely at your discretion. Let’s look at some of the factors that may influence your decision on when and how to share the news that you are expecting.
There are certain cases in which moms-to-be can’t wait to share the news of pregnancy. Some of them are listed below.
Extreme cases of morning sickness
This condition can be quite uncomfortable and burdensome for moms-to-be. Keeping it to yourself can also make you feel isolated.
Hence why sharing early could be a way of gaining support from friends and family. Also, if you still work, telling your employer and co-workers will help them accommodate you at your place of work.
Past pregnancy loss
Experiencing the loss of a pregnancy is quite difficult and painful. So if a couple finds out that they’re expecting again, they know they will need all the love and support from friends and family throughout their journey. Thereby sharing the news as early as possible.
Michelle, a mom of 2 previous IVF’s kids said she shared the news with her family after 7 weeks. It’s common for mothers going through this route to loop in family and friends as soon as they know they are pregnant.
After all, it’s a route that requires a lot of commitment and loads of medical treatments. So it’s very natural to want to share with loved ones the latest development.
12 weeks plus announcement
There are many reasons why expectant parents wait until after the 12th week before sharing their exciting news. Here are a few.
Risk of miscarriage is reduced
It’s common for most expectant moms to wait until after the 12th week before sharing because by then the risk of miscarriage is reduced. Entering the 2nd trimester reduces the worries of pregnancy loss.
My husband and I fell under this category for both our boys. After our 1st scan at 12 weeks, we shared the news with our family and friends.
We are amongst many because, at this point, chances of a miscarriage drops by up to 5 per cent. No wonder, many couples feel comfortable to share their exciting news by this point.
Improvement in morning sickness
By this phase of pregnancy, morning sickness symptoms and exhaustion begin the improve. Making it a great time for moms-to-be to begin to feel better about sharing their news.
Genetic screening results
Most expectant moms receive results of blood tests and genetic screening results between the 11th and 14th week period of pregnancy. These tests are done to look for indications of extra or missing absent chromosomes for example Down syndrome in the fetus.
Receiving results saying these tests are negative can be reassuring for expectant parents, thereby encouraging them to share their exciting news.
Not everyone wants to broadcast their pregnancy immediately they find out. Some people keep it themselves until towards the end of the 2nd trimester because of the reasons below.
Many expectant moms experience mixed feelings about sharing the news of pregnancy – whether their pregnancy is planned or not. Some might want to keep this new development to themselves because they are attention-shy or cherish their privacy.
Because once the news breaks out, all attention is now squarely on the mom-to-be.
Anatomy scan results
The anatomy scan is given between the 18th and 20th scan. It’s also known as the level 2 ultrasound. It’s a scan in which expectant parents get the chance learn the sex of their child if they choose.
It’s also a chance to see how the baby’s organs such as the heart, brain, lungs and so on are developing. This scan can help offer assurances to parents who might be hesitant to share because of fear of genetic disorders.
For some women who have experienced previous pregnancy loss, they might want to keep the news to themselves for as long as possible in case it happens again. The fear of losing it again and having to share the news of the loss all over again, can be quite stressful and even lead to PTSD.
How to share the news
In a world of perfectly worded Instagram pregnancy announcements boards, it’s hard to decide how to share your big news or whom to share it first with for that matter. Again this decision is entirely up to you.
Who you decide to share the news first with is entirely up to you. Most expectant moms choose to share with family, then friends and possibly public announcements on social media.
Sharing the news with family is such a cherished experience especially if the parents of the expectant parents are going to be first-time grandparents.
Choosing fun, exciting and creative ways to share the news with family can make the experience even more memorable and precious.
You’ll probably want to share with your closest friends first then to your wider circle of friends. And your even broader circle of friends on social media and friends who live far away.
Pregnancy announcements boards, ultrasound pictures, babygrows are all fun and creative ways to share your big news and receive lots of congratulations in the process.
Informing your employer of your pregnancy is very important especially if you are planning on taking some time off and arranging parental leave. It’s also vital to share the news if your work is that which requires physical work which might not be safe during pregnancy.
Telling your employer sooner also helps with finding a suitable replacement to cover for you during your parental leave. For your peace of mind, it is important for you know that you are protected by the Pregnancy Discrimination Act of 1978 against discrimination, this helps ease any concerns about telling your employers.
The Act also ensures that you are reasonably accommodated in events that you are unable to perform work activities safely.
To summarize, sharing your big news with friends and family is entirely up to you. I hope that when and however you share with your friends and family, they’d be just as thrilled as you. Wishing you nothing but a safe and healthy pregnancy.
So how did you announce your big news? I would love to hear all about it. Please leave a comment below and don’t forget to hit the share button.
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Kami C. is a wife and mum to 3 adorable boys. She is a Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping others achieve a life they love and deserve. She is also an author and freelance writer. Writing truly brings joy to her soul. She believes in spreading love and kindness to make the world a better place.